Thursday, October 28, 2010

God's v Man's

I have quickly learned from watching television and seeing some people's comments and statuses on facebook that God's principles are definitely NOT man's principles. It honestly,truly saddens my heart that even people who claim to be Christians fall into man's way of thinking. These are things I have learned...

Man's view: Put yourself first
God's view: Put yourself last

Man's view: Base your decisions solely on how it affects you
God's view: Base your decisions based on Biblical principles and how they affect others in your life.

Man's view: Happiness is a feeling. Therefor if you feel happy than whatever you are doing is a good thing. Do whatever makes you happy. Even if it is at the expense of others happiness...or well being.
God's view: Happiness is a choice. If you 'choose' to turn all your worries,wants and desires over to the Lord and live completely and solely for Him you will be happy. You can choose to be happy with your spouse,children and current living conditions and/or situations. We should never base our decisions off of our 'feelings'. It will only lead us to a world of hurt in the long run.

Man's view: Never judge or give advice to someone that goes against what they want or how they are living. Accept them for who they are. Never dare speak a word of truth to them...it may hurt their 'feelings'. Constructive criticism is a big no-no.
God's view: Speak the truth in love. Encourage your fellow brothers and sisters in Christ to make wise decisions. Decisions based on Godly principles. This is not judging. This is giving them an outside perspective and trying to save them from ruin and hurt later on.

Man's view: You are not selfish when you live your life for you and you only. You ARE selfish if you try and help someone who is making wrong choices (figure that one out).
God's view: Our main purpose here is to bring honor and glory to God. We are to base our life around what God wants and focus on the people God has placed in our lives. We should think of ourselves last. Ultimately this will lead us down a road of fulfillment and happiness.

Man's view: Surround yourself with friends that will only agree with you and accept any and every decision you make. Take advice from the ungodly.
God's view: Surround yourself with godly people who will give you godly advice even though it may go against what you want.

"Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night." - Psalm 1:1

Friday, October 22, 2010

Noah IS Batman!

Noah is having a current obsession with Batman...or really thinking he IS Batman! This kid sleeps,eats and breathes Batman! He introduces himself as Batman,responds to being called Batman, dresses like Batman and somehow always manages to turn a subject on to Batman! He has a pair of Batman pajamas he wears all the time! Well, that and cowboy boots (aka Batman boots). The other day I had to wash all the dirt and grime off his Batman outfit (fighting the bad guys is dirty work!). I knew it was going to be a battle getting the Batman outfit off of my little Batman. I finally had to peel the clothes off Batman's back against his will. The meltdown that ensued was not pretty! My Batman started kicking,screaming,scratching himself and hitting himself. He was calling himself stupid and was very distraught because he really thought he couldn't be Batman without his beloved outfit! I didn't know how to respond. Do I discipline him or just hold him? I decided for the later because he wasn't doing anything to me and I could clearly see that this really upset him. (Meltdowns I have come to realize are not an act of defiance!) I held him tight (not saying a word),shushed in his ear and kept his arms held away from him so he couldn't hurt himself anymore. After about a 10 minute meltdown he finally settled down and was as calm and happy as could be. I have since washed the outfit and it is still in the dryer (it has been for 3 days now!). He hasn't mentioned the outfit yet but I am sure he will be glad to be re-united with it tonight! Yep, this is how our Noah (uhem...I mean 'Batman') rolls. He will have a major meltdown over something and then once it's through it's through. Crazy boy...

*Noah does get disciplined when he has disobeyed or is truly being defiant*

Thursday, October 21, 2010

The world needs all kinds of minds

And we were given a child with one of those unique minds. Noah was diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum last week.
(This was when he was in one of his phases. He would wear snow pants, snow boots and a tie all day...every day. Lasted about 2 months.)
If you haven't watched this movie...then I suggest you do. It's very interesting and I found myself crying off and on through out the whole thing. Noah has allot of her same responses to situations and behaviors. It really hit home for me. I have wondered for awhile (about 1 1/2 years) if there was something else going on with Noah but I wanted to wait until he was a little older to make sure it wasn't just normal 2-3 year old behavior. Once he turned four I decided it was time to get him evaluated. I knew in my gut that he would get a diagnoses of 'mild autism'. Sure enough after the doctor asked Noah several questions and also asked me an onslaught of questions, the neurologist confirmed my suspicions. Noah is on the autism spectrum. I almost had a feeling of relief. Now we can really start understanding why he responds the way he does to things. I also feel blessed that God has given me such a unique child. Yes, he takes up a good 80% of my attention (he has from day one) but I have a feeling it will all be worth it in the end. My mother has always said, "Your biggest challenges bring you your biggest rewards.". God made Noah the way he is for a very specific reason. I may not know what the reason is now but in time it will reveal itself in an amazing way! These are some of Noah's behaviors that had me wondering and started me researching autism/aspergers.
~Stuttering/his own 'accent' almost
~Meltdowns
~Obsessions
~Repetitive movements- he also can't sit still. (He moves like he has to go to the bathroom...when he doesn't.)
~Narrowed interest- for example he has been 'Batman' for 2 months now. Before that he was a cowboy for about 6-7 months straight (wore his boots to bed and everything). He almost always talks about Batman and not much of anything else.
~Poor social skills. He does not play with children. He plays off by himself.
~He takes everything you say literal. He does not understand sarcasm.
~He likes to eat the same thing every day and is a picky eater.
~He doesn't seem to understand others feelings or emotions.
~He doesn't think logically.
~He lives in a fantasy world most of the time. He really,truly believes he IS Batman! He even responds to Batman!
~Poor eye contact when talking.

~He panics if he is thrown in the air or held upside down. I mean REALLY panics!
~He also panics and freaks out when water is thrown in his face or he is splashed with water.
~He has a hard time answering questions and somehow always gets a subject back to Batman.
~His eyes tend to dart back and forth allot and he blinks his eyes constantly.
~He covers his ears and/or hides underneath furniture when there are loud noises or when he is scared.
Sometimes he just doesn't answer questions at all or just responds with "I don't know".
These were his most obvious behaviors that made me wondering.

Anyway, take a look at this. It is very interesting and I am anxious to watch more of her speeches. She is a very intriguing person!